“It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yes’s aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.”—Daniell Koepke (via thingssheloves)
To be a transwoman, particularly a black one, is to have such a draining identity. In an anti-black racist, transphobic, misogynist society you literally have to assert yourself at every turn. It is a constant naming of yourself. Your silence will result in your dehumanization, pain, sadness, and death. But sometimes all you want is to be quiet. To be silent and listen to the sounds of the world around you…To know you exist in its symphony.
“So, do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More Compassionate? Decide. Breathe in. Breathe out and decide”—Meredith Grey (via forever-and-alwayss)